Loving Your Neighbor

 

If you thought it is tough to love other Christians wait until you read this message! It all begins with loving God, so if you are not ready to be challenged in this area, then maybe you don’t love God after all so don’t bother to continue to read. But if you really do love God, then you had better read this. Remember that loving God is not a feeling or a theory it is something that we do. Our love for God finds its expression in loving His Word, loving His people and now, loving our neighbor.

This phrase, love your neighbor, appears twelve times in the Bible. The first time it is mentioned is in the Law of Moses (Leviticus 19:18). In Matthew 22:36 a lawyer tried to trick Jesus by asking Him which was the great command in the Law. Jesus responded “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” So the second command after loving God is to love our neighbor. This is not only an Old Testament command, it is repeated in the New Testament (Romans 13:9-10, Galatians 5:14, James 2:8). So this law applies to us as much as to those of the Old Testament.

Of course, if we do not love God, loving our neighbor will be impossible. Again, it all has to begin with, and flow from, our relationship to God. Paul stresses that if we love our neighbor, we have fulfilled the law. And, knowing that we so easily justify ourselves by saying we have warm fuzzy feelings towards everybody, Paul explains that loving our neighbor entails certain behavior: “For the commandments, You shall not commit adultery, You shall not murder, You shall not steal, You shall not bear false witness, You shall not covet, and if there is any other commandment, are all summed up in this saying, namely, You shall love your neighbor as yourself. Love does no harm to a neighbor; therefore love is the fulfillment of the law.” (Romans 13:9-10). In other words; loving my neighbor will result in me not taking his wife, killing him, stealing from him, spreading rumors about him or even coveting anything that is his. This does not only mean physical adultery, murder, stealing etc, but embraces looking at his wife with lust, being angry with him or even taking anything that is his including, honor, time, respect or anything else that belongs to him.

While the idea of “neighbor” includes other Christians, it is not limited to Christians only. And if this is hard to do for another believer, it is much harder to be loving towards those who are not true Christians. In Luke 10:29 a lawyer finding this command a bit restrictive thought that he could get off the hook by asking Jesus to “Define neighbor”. It is then that Jesus tells the parable of the Good Samaritan. We often forget the bottom line of this parable as we get involved in all the little details of the story. The bottom line is that our neighbor is anyone we come across in life. The religious people who went past the poor man in the gutter had all sorts of excuses and explanations as to why the dirty, wounded fellow was not their neighbor. Maybe he was not a Jew, maybe he was a sinner, maybe he had been excommunicated from the temple. But no excuse holds water. The fact that they saw him lying there, made him their neighbor – whether they liked it or not. And everybody you come across in your daily life is your neighbor. This includes the friendly Christian and the rude unbeliever. From the person who cuts you off in the traffic to the lady who pushed in front of you in the line. From the homeless beggar to the powerful government official who makes your life hard. If you know the person’s name, or have seen their face, they are your neighbor and you must love them.

Many feel that surely we are not expected to love those who persecute us or are our enemies. But Jesus said: “I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you,  that you may be sons of your Father in heaven… For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same?  And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect” (Matthew 5:44-48). Notice that Jesus links loving our enemies to being sons of our Father. What He is saying is that if we are truly born-again and God is our father, then we need to act and be like Him. One of the ways we do that is by loving our enemies, just like Jesus had only compassion for those who flogged Him and crucified Him. And right there lies the rub. For too long, christians have adopted the name and trappings of being God’s children without the reality. We cannot be God’s children and continue to act like Adam or the Devil is our father. The children of darkness are hateful, bitter and take vengeance. The children of light are different. In fact, so different that the world will take note that we are not the same as those who only love those who love them, but that we do love those who hate and abuse us.

But more, Matthew 5:48 links loving our enemies with the command to “be perfect just as our Father in heaven is perfect”. Yes, that is a very high standard indeed. We too easily excuse ourselves from doing the hard things because we feel that God surely cannot expect that from us. But the fact is, He does! He expects you to be just as perfect as God Himself is. To which we have to respond; “but that is impossible, I can never achieve that”. That’s exactly the point. Humanly, it is impossible but with God all things are possible. He is able to impart His nature to us so we can do those things that we cannot do on our own. We can love as He does because “the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us” (Romans 5:4). Our human love is very weak but His love is able to love the most unlovely. Thus we need His love to be poured into our hearts.

But here is the problem, He can only pour His love into us, when we make room for His love by emptying ourselves of the love of self. As long as we love ourselves, there just is no room for God’s selfless love. When we are willing to die to the love of self, then the love of God will be able to rise in our hearts. 1Corinthians 13:4 says: “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things”. None of these things are possible as long as self is still on the throne. Why are we impatient with others, why are we rude and not kind, why are we envious of others, why do we love to speak of ourselves (parade itself)? Because self is the centre of our lives. Allow self to be crucified and watch the love of God flow through you empowering you to love the most abominable enemy in the world.

 

Anton Bosch

anton@ifcb.net

3310 W Magnolia Blvd

Burbank, CA, 91505

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www.burbankchurch.org

 

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